Obsessive Love

When a person doesn’t hear “No“? As in “No I don’t want to date you anymore” or “No I don’t love you“. You have to ask yourself “Why is he trying to control me?“

What I realized when I went to see “Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants – Part 2”

I went to go see the movie “Sisterhood of the Traveling Parts – Part 2” with my sister, step-mother and believe it or not my Father (who knew the father liked sappy and/or chick flick movie). I was over ruled when we picked a movie to see on our last family outing together. I figured it might be cute and I would probably enjoy its sophomoric charm. I hadn’t intended it to enlighten me to something in my life. Something I knew. Something I was doing but was pretending I wasn’t.

What is that thing you say? Well I broke up with a boy 7 years ago because he didn’t want to get married after dating a decade. Imagine my surprise. And over the past 7 years I’d convinced myself I was over him. I had had two serious relationships and was sure that they failed because “I was just not that into them”. Instead of realizing I was just not over the old boyfriend so I wasn’t able to let a new one into my heart. I know familiar story I’m sure you’ve heard it before either from your own life or a lifetime movie.

But what was it in the movie that gave me this revelation? It is when one of the four girl’s, Lena in this case, ex boyfriend Kostos comes all the way from Greece to tell her he is sorry for hurting her and tells her he got rid of the other woman. She accepts his apology and walks away. Her girlfriends don’t understand why she isn’t giving him another chance? They argue that he came all that way to apologize and had a good explanation for what happened. The movie quote goes like this:

Tibby:
So Kostos isn’t married. Why can’t you just stop thinking about it and follow your heart?

Lena:
Because…he broke my heart!

In my head it went on like this:

Lena: “He broke my heart into a million little pieces. He broke it to the point that I thought I wouldn’t be able to put it back together again. EVER. I NEVER want to feel like that again. I NEVER want to love that way again“.

I believe the character Lena actually said the last line about never wanting to feel that way again and that was the line that resonated with me. My heart was broken and I also NEVER want to love that way again.

Can I be fixed? Well they say the 1st step to recovery is admitting you have a problem. So here is to admitting I have a problem. As one of the Character’s say in the movie:

Bridget Vreeland:
The past is always with us — so it’s time I stopped running.

Anyone else can relate?

Technorati Tags: alexis bledel, broken heart, chick flick, Dating, Lena, Love, marriage, Movie, part 2, relationship, sisterhood of the traveling pants, the sisterhood of the traveling pants part 2

Why Men Crave Real (not perfect) Bodies

An excerpt from MSN article “Why Men Crave Real (not perfect) Bodies” I thought was interesting:

This is the part I think women don’t understand. When a guy falls in love, his lover’s body parts become bewitching. I’m not going to tell you that our heads don’t turn when we see a stacked blond walking down the street. But when we fall for you—really, really fall for you—you hijack our sense of beautiful. What’s sexy to us? You—in the “before” picture.

Where is this Man? And will he marry me?….LOLTechnorati Tags: Love, Attraction, Relationships, Dating, MSN, Body, Perfect, Men

I took the plunge and signed up with Match again….Wanna know what happened?

Well I’ve been on and off Match in the past 7 years. I did get a relationship out of the process once 6 years ago but it didn’t work out. He is a great guy and we have remained friends. He is going to get married next year and I’m really happy for him…..But oh I digress.

So I sign up and revamped my profile with bullet points of what I want and who I am because really most people don’t read your profile. So I tried to make it easier for guys to read and get the gist of what I was looking for. And what do I get for my efforts? An email that said

“You really make your ad easy to read. Are you throwing your net out there for some knuckle scrapers? I’m definitely not of the knuckle scrapping tribe but maybe we could chat some.”

Now for some reason it just struck me the wrong way. Anyone else agree with me? Or am I jumping the gun?

Well I answered him back in the off chance I was jumping the gun. And I got this response:

So please tell me your secret. You could actually pass for someone in their late 20s. Of course maybe the pictures were taken 14 years ago. You should hold up a recent copy of the New York TImes to remove all doubt.

Again a compliment with a dig. So readers I ask you to comment on the emails and let me know what you think about the responses.

Technorati Tags: Match, Online dating, Dating, Emails

I’m not the only one who thinks Online Dating can be HELL!

I was doing my usual blog reading when I came across a blog called Online Dating Disaster in Broken English written by Geeksugar. It is a review of Parker Posey’s film Broken English. Geeksugar states:

Frustrated by her lack of men in the beginning, she happens upon a Match.com-like dating site and gets some pretty funny — yet harsh and straightforward news: “Your selection didn’t turn up anything.” Online dating sometimes makes you feel like there’s slim-pickins out there.

I just have to say at least I’m not the only one who experiences that “slim-pickins” feeling when doing the online dating thing. Anyone else get that feeling?

Go here if you wannna see a clip from the movie: Broken English

I think I’m gonna check this movie out. I want Magic. Don’t you?

Some blogger thinks Madonna looks her age…ie Hideous!!…WTH

So in doing my usual blog perusing in my Google reader, I see a post that is summed up by “Madonna‘s finally starting to look her age! THAT HAIR! The dress. Ughhh.” So I open up the link expecting to see a hideous picture of Madonna. This is what I see:

Now maybe I”m wrong. Maybe I’m a woman over 40 who is just too sympathetic to the ravages of time and my eye site maybe going (ok ok IT IS GONE) but I think Madonna looks fine. She doesn’t look 21 but I would NOT qualify her look as “horrified” as the blogger infers…..Have I lost all of my fashion senses? Can some of you readers out there help a Girl out!? Thanks

Some Valentine’s Videos to Make you glad you didn’t have one

I know Valentine’s Day has come and gone but I saw this video clip from Shoebox card company and thought i would share it with you all. It is funny. Enjoy:

Rejected Shoebox Valentine’s Day Cards

Than I saw this video on the People.com site where Jim Carrey is telling Oprah what he is going to do for Jenny McCarthy. It is hysterical:

Jim Carrey tells Oprah about his plans for Jenny McCarthy on Valentine’s Day

Intro to Diary of a Mad 40 something woman

Why am I a Mad 40 something woman?……………………..

Well 35 is bad, 39 is worse and 40 is the worst. 40 comes and you suddenly realize that theoretically you have more life behind you then you have in front of you! Ackkk………You start to think of the things you have done and mentally (or to those anal people like me write down a list) check that against the list of things you thought you would have done by this age. And lo and behold the list of things done is not as many as you would like.

In fact, some things are too late to do. Too late you say! Bahhhhh nothing is too late in this day and age you say! Well realistically to have a child biologically really is slim to impossible in your 40s unless you have a lot of money. Most of the cases we see on TV are the exceptions. The lucky ones. Oprah just had a show on troubles people have in becoming parents the other day. Martha Stewart’s daughter, Alexis, was on and talked about her struggles with infertility. Like me she put it off to pursue her career then woke up one day and realized Holy Crap the alarm on my bio clock went of months ago. I better hop to it. You realize you have no one to pass your Mom’s amazing legs to or your beautiful Dad’s eyes 😦

Next you realize that your ex, who you left so that you could get in a more fulfilling relationship, can have kids till he drops dead. So now here you are with no kids and no relationship let alone a fulfilling one. WTF?

Then you tell your doctor your fears and she says “Well realistically you have a slim chance and then there is the issue of birth defects with older woman.”……ACKKKK Someone wake me from this nightmare.

Society and the media tells me that 30 is the new 40. I look in the mirror and I think I look pretty good. I think I don’t look like my Mom when she was 40 but then reality hits you over the head…..ughhhhh

All this is why I’m mad to start with.

Anyone else feel this way?